I accused my father recently of this.
I think demarcating the boundary between stoic behavior and stupid behavior is important, and would be of far more value that throwing all masculinity in the shitter.
An interesting theory cropped up at a SSC meetup a couple of months ago. Its possible that stoicism is on the whole good, but in the subset of men who seek therapy, is a hindrance to that therapy. So the APA’s attack on stoicism may simply be an artifact of sampling bias.
I found that thought interesting.