Pretty brave article. Might get you kicked out of some parties. Most people saying this stuff are doing it behind closed doors.

I’ve read some MRM stuff, and watched the back-and-forth with the feminists, and it’s honestly something I don’t really want to get involved in. And I’ve wondered why not. And after a lot of introspection, I think I have my answer, although I might not like it. I know the feminists won’t like it, and the MRM won’t like it either.

I have been indoctrinated into the idea that men are carriers of burdens. Our job is to be strong and expendable and quit complaining. No amount of stoicism is toxic. We can serve our function better in the ant-hill that is society if we develop skin as thick as steel and deal with all the garbage thrown at us by “manning up.” Firefighters don’t cry about the burnt cat, or the burnt kid, because if they spent any time crying another kid might burn, and they’ve got important shit to do. And the MRM looks a lot like complaining to me.

This is a purely indoctrinated belief, and some blend of society/parenting/culture/etc has given that belief to me. But for now, I think that belief is serving me well. I think it has to. If I give up on it, then everything is going to go to shit, and I don’t have that luxury, nor does my family.

Cry when you’re dead.

Conscientious objector to the culture war. I think a lot. mirror: writer at: beggar at:

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